“Don’t cry, you’re okay.” “Everything will be fine.” “You have nothing to worry about.” These are such natural adult responses! But your child is very likely thinking: “But it DOES hurt!” “I AM worried!” “It’s NOT okay!”
Children, like adults, do feel what they feel; telling them that they don’t just confuses and frustrates them, but doesn’t make the feeling go away. In fact, the child will feel misunderstood and lonely in her fear, pain or worry. In addition, when it comes to physical pain, every human being has a different tolerance level. What “doesn’t hurt” for one person may indeed hurt another. It’s impossible to judge another person’s pain—physical or emotional.Read More
Do you find it impossible to take a shower, work at your desk or use the bathroom without your little one tagging along, or crying if you leave the room without him? This kind of separation anxiety is common. The good news is that children eventually outgrow this phase, and that you can move things along by using some of the following ideas.Read More
I often hear parents ask, “When should my baby start walking?” To begin with, “should” is a word that we should outlaw when it comes to babies! The important milestones in a baby’s life ⎯ such as walking and talking ⎯ occur at completely different times for each baby. Independent walking, like many other milestones, has a wide range of normal.Read More
Adding a second child to the family changes everything. The postpartum time produces a whirl of emotions that envelops everyone in those first tender months after bringing your second-born into your family. In our instinctive drive to keep newborns from harm, we often become overzealous.Read More
Do your think that your child is shy? Maybe . . . but maybe not. The actions we perceive as shyness are sometimes a sign of something entirely different.
Some children are slow to open up and they need more time to warm up to a group or a new peer. Some kids just don’t have enough practice in social situations to feel comfortable. Some are tentative about all new situations. And some are, yes, shy.Read More
From the time your baby is born until she leaves home for college or wherever the future leads, the two of you may have over 100,000 hours together. It would be absolutely impossible, unnecessary, and unhelpful to spend all of those hours as your child’s personal Sesame Street Live. Your time with your child should be balanced between focused, engaged together-time with some “we’re in the same room, and we’re both doing our own thing” time.Read More